Moving From Change to Progress
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1/100 of a second Michael Phelps just pushed himself beyond his competitor. But you know what allowed him to push beyond that moment is his rituals. Go study the guy. Most people who swim have these unbelievable workouts. He does two and three of those workouts sessions a day! All the other swimmers in the beginning thought he was insane! "You're going to overtrain, you can't do that, its not physically possible," but he had a standard and the rituals to back it up. So here's my final message with you: you're not going to be happy if you don't keep making your life better. That's what makes us feel alive. It's not what you get that makes you happy, it's who we become. And what we're able to give because we become more. That sense of contribution creates the deepest meaning. So here's my assignment for you.
What's an area of your life right now that you really want to improve? What's important to improve? If your body's great, what about your career? If your career is great, what about your relationships? Intimate ones especially, with your kids, or your creator (spiritual side of life), or is it your finances? Figure an area that really matters, decide on that area.
#1: Write down what you life is like in that area as specifically as possible. So you might say, "I'm 13.5 pounds overweight," "I wake up exahsted in the morning," "I'm not in a relationship, I say I want a relationship, but I'm not in one and I don't seem to find one, all the good ones seem to be gone is my belief. And I really do want one, but I don't have it" Whatever your definition is etc. So write the truth of where you are right now, so you're clear.
#2 this is where you've got to be really honest with yourself. What are the rituals that put me there? Because whatever results you're getting, even if you don't like the results, there are some rituals that are keeping you in that place. There are some rituals of how you eat or don't eat, how you move or don't move, how you study or don't study, how you sleep or don't sleep, what you study or don't study, there are some rituals in the lack of variety or spice or focus in an area. There's something you're doing, and it's usually not one thing, it's a bunch of little things that you kind of do consistently, whenever you think about getting into a relationship, whenever you think about working out, whenever you think about money, you get yourself into a state of overwhelm, you start thinking about things you can't control. Just write down all the rituals you have and then write down...
#3 What do you want? What is your vision? And be really specific, "I want to be my fighting weight; I want to be the strongest I've ever been;" whatever it is, be specific.
#4 Last step, what are the rituals that would get you there? What would you need to do differently each morning if you were going to be full of that kind of energy, that kind of strength? How often would you workout? What days would you workout? What times? A ritual is something you do consistently usually at a specific time so it becomes automatic.
Let me tell you something, willpower doesn't last, but rituals can last a lifetime. I bet you have some rituals in your life right now that you've been doing for years. Even though some of them don't serve you, I'm just saying wake yourself up. If you want a new year and a new life, you don't need to start on January 1st. Start today, and just begin to see what happens, and begin to see how easy it is to just do a few little rituals. Don't do them all, just do two or three new things. And you know what happens, you'll get momentum. Because once you discipline yourself in one area of your life, you feel yourself doing it in other areas as well. I always say something that my original teacher taught me, Jim Rohn. There are always two pains in life: there's the pain of discipline, or the pain of regret. And discipline weighs ounces, regret weighs tons. You don't want to have regret.
If you're not sure ask people around you, they'll tell you what your rituals are.
(27:00)
1/100 of a second Michael Phelps just pushed himself beyond his competitor. But you know what allowed him to push beyond that moment is his rituals. Go study the guy. Most people who swim have these unbelievable workouts. He does two and three of those workouts sessions a day! All the other swimmers in the beginning thought he was insane! "You're going to overtrain, you can't do that, its not physically possible," but he had a standard and the rituals to back it up. So here's my final message with you: you're not going to be happy if you don't keep making your life better. That's what makes us feel alive. It's not what you get that makes you happy, it's who we become. And what we're able to give because we become more. That sense of contribution creates the deepest meaning. So here's my assignment for you.
What's an area of your life right now that you really want to improve? What's important to improve? If your body's great, what about your career? If your career is great, what about your relationships? Intimate ones especially, with your kids, or your creator (spiritual side of life), or is it your finances? Figure an area that really matters, decide on that area.
#1: Write down what you life is like in that area as specifically as possible. So you might say, "I'm 13.5 pounds overweight," "I wake up exahsted in the morning," "I'm not in a relationship, I say I want a relationship, but I'm not in one and I don't seem to find one, all the good ones seem to be gone is my belief. And I really do want one, but I don't have it" Whatever your definition is etc. So write the truth of where you are right now, so you're clear.
#2 this is where you've got to be really honest with yourself. What are the rituals that put me there? Because whatever results you're getting, even if you don't like the results, there are some rituals that are keeping you in that place. There are some rituals of how you eat or don't eat, how you move or don't move, how you study or don't study, how you sleep or don't sleep, what you study or don't study, there are some rituals in the lack of variety or spice or focus in an area. There's something you're doing, and it's usually not one thing, it's a bunch of little things that you kind of do consistently, whenever you think about getting into a relationship, whenever you think about working out, whenever you think about money, you get yourself into a state of overwhelm, you start thinking about things you can't control. Just write down all the rituals you have and then write down...
#3 What do you want? What is your vision? And be really specific, "I want to be my fighting weight; I want to be the strongest I've ever been;" whatever it is, be specific.
#4 Last step, what are the rituals that would get you there? What would you need to do differently each morning if you were going to be full of that kind of energy, that kind of strength? How often would you workout? What days would you workout? What times? A ritual is something you do consistently usually at a specific time so it becomes automatic.
Let me tell you something, willpower doesn't last, but rituals can last a lifetime. I bet you have some rituals in your life right now that you've been doing for years. Even though some of them don't serve you, I'm just saying wake yourself up. If you want a new year and a new life, you don't need to start on January 1st. Start today, and just begin to see what happens, and begin to see how easy it is to just do a few little rituals. Don't do them all, just do two or three new things. And you know what happens, you'll get momentum. Because once you discipline yourself in one area of your life, you feel yourself doing it in other areas as well. I always say something that my original teacher taught me, Jim Rohn. There are always two pains in life: there's the pain of discipline, or the pain of regret. And discipline weighs ounces, regret weighs tons. You don't want to have regret.
If you're not sure ask people around you, they'll tell you what your rituals are.
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