Unleash the Power Within
(1:14:52) This guy was great at communicating to everyone but himself (ex: Cory Montieth). He felt torn up in side, so he turned to drugs to try to change the way he felt because he didn't change the way he communicated with himself. You must master communication with yourself. Contrast him to a soldier in the Vietnam war, Jerry, he was shot down with two of his fellow soldiers. He gets locked up for seven years, beat everyday, tied with shackles in a cell that's not much wider than my body and six feet long. He had nothing to take care of his necessities but a hole in the ground and a metal pan of water. He was beat on a regular basis and isolated for seven years. What's interesting is that Jerry came out of there and said, "that it was the most powerful experience of his life and he wouldn't trade those seven years for anything that could've happened to him. You think "this guy is on drugs!" No what he did was become a master of communication with himself. When he first got locked up he said that, "I might be here a while," and he thought to himself, "ok what does this mean?" If this means that my life is over, then it is. If I said, "why did you do this to me God?" then I'm just going to be living in pain. He said, "ok how do I use this?" and that was his question. By the way, the way you change your communication with yourself is asking a better quality of questions. Questions shape our entire thinking process. In fact, thinking is nothing but the process of asking and answering questions. And the problem is is that we are asking ourselves questions on a regular basis, but they're unconscious and we don't even realize it. We say things like, "how come I always screw this up?" we ask that alot. Well maybe we don't screw it up, but ask and you shall receive. Ask a lousy question and you get a lousy question. so someone asks, "how come I can never lose weight?" "because you are a pig!" That's what your brain will tell you. So you ask, "how can I lose weight?" "go on a diet!" Well you don't want to do that because diet=pain, so you ask, "how do I lose weight now and enjoy the process?" Wow, new question, new answer! "Well maybe I'd like to take up polo and do something fun while in the midst of doing that I'll be losing weight without even thinking about it. Most of us have habitual questions that we ask that control our whole thinking. So instead of staying, "why did you do this to me God?" he asked, "how do I use this?" New quality question, new quality answer. Each day he asked himself new questions. He picked a day out of his life and would literally think the entire day through to learn from the past experiences of his life. He stimulated himself physically by doing push ups and sit ups even though he was going on bread and water most of the time. He came out strong mentally, emotionally, he became closer to God because he said there was no one else to talk to, so he had to create that. But what's interesting is that he was shot down with two other people. One person committed suicide in the prison and the other guy is still to this day in a psychotic ward in the U.S. The only difference between these guys was the way they communicated to themselves. I know it doesn't sound very sexy, but it's your whole life and it's about time you take control of it. And the way you take control of it is by asking better questions and #2 is by starting to develop incantations that empower you versus those that destroy the quality of your life, because that's what most people do, they ask: "why is this happening to me?! I can't believe this is happening to me!! Why is this happening to me?!" And this person is immobilized overwhelmingly with negative emotions. So the quality of your life is the quality of your communication. And by the way, your communication is not just words. Research shows that when two people first meet, what actually influences the other person to change the way they feel and/ or actually do something different is not words. there are a few words that do it, but most don't. At USC, research demonstrated that words and human communication represent only 7% of what actually influence to change how they felt about something. Most salesmen, marketers spend an inordinate amount of time trying to figure out what to say and how to say it in order to get someone to respond. And while words do play a role, they are actually the smallest way to change the way people feel. What's more important is the voice qualities and voice cues as we call it. When we think of communication, don't just think of words, think of the voice cues, because voice qualities represent 38% of what actually influences someone to change how they feel. So what's a voice quality? Tonality (the key in which something is said or played) is an obvious one, timbre (timbre is what makes a particular musical sound different from another, even when they have the same pitch and loudness. For instance, it is the difference between a guitar and a piano playing the same note at the same loudness) the quality of the sound, VOLUME!!!, tempo (the tempo at which someone speaks radically affects the way we feel doesn't it?) What affects us more than voice qualities though is our physiology. The way we use our body represents 55% of what actually influences how we think and how we feel in the moment when someone is communicating to us. This is true of other people as well as ourselves. Physiology is facial expressions, muscular tension or relaxation, the way you gesture. all these things have much more influences than just words. Have you ever left someones prescene and you said in youre gut, "it's not going to happen."
How we change the way ourselves and others feel
Funny thing is, that when you have all three aligned you have to be emitting a certain resonance. Once you accept that this is the way the body responds to these communication areas, you can adjust it for certain situations and find out limiting beliefs and empowering beliefs, and how to get confident with the flick of a switch.
Sometimes you know in your gut something is not going to happen. You don't know why, but you just knew it was going to happen. This is because your brain is trained to look for incongruencies. An incongruency is when your voice, body, and the words don’t match. People notice this. So when you say "sure..." sorta uncertainly, people notice that. They notice when the inflection doesn’t match the word. And even when they don't notice it consciously, they notice it unconsciously, so you’ve got to communicate congruently even to yourself. This is very valuable when you are communicating to yourself. If you say to yourself, "ok...I'm gonna do it....I'm gonna do it..." with no emotion, your brain says, "no way! not in a million years, I'm not stupid you know! Who are you trying to kid? there is no physiology here! You are incongruent!" But if you say with a gesture “I’m going to do it!!!” your whole body gets involved and you're going to mean it, you're going to show up. So you not only want to get good at communicating with other people, but first you have to communicate well with yourself. We need to get you to be congruent, so thatall of you is saying “yes” not just your words. You body, your voice qualities, and your words.
(132:00) Ask this question What's my outcome? You instantly change your physiology. Reasons come first, answers come second. Clarity is power.
(138:00) The largest number of distinctions.
Change your approach. Still not working, change it again, if that still doesn't work, change it again,
The thing that can affect your life the most, in terms of your ability to achieve your outcomes, is the greatest resource on earth, which is other human beings. For example, have you ever had somebody mistake you being polite for actually being interested in what they were talking about? Or worse, how many of you have ever thought somebody was interested in what you were saying and you found out that you were just being polite. How many of you have been in that place? say I! "I!" That's kind of an uncomfortable situation, and when that happened to you, you were missing that sensory acuity that day.
So if you know your outcome, if you know why you want it, you've got your purpose, you've got your drive, you've got your "A" in OPA (Outcome, Purpose, Action), you're taking massive action, and you notice if its working, what happens if you notice its not working? You're taking action, but its not getting closer to your outcome. What's the obvious fifth step? The fifth step is to change your approach. if what your doing, what your acuity says is not working, change it. Now what happens if you change your approach and its still not working, then what would you do? Change your approach. And what if that doesn't work what do you do? Change it!!! And what about after that it doesn't work? Change it!!! And what if that doesn't work what do you do? Change it!!! And what if that doesn't work what do you do? Change it!!! And what if after all that, it still doesn't work, what do you do? Change it!!! How many times? Until you find out what works!!! Do not say to yourself: I've tried everything. That's bull. If you'd have tried everything, you'd have what you want.
"Well I haven't tried everything, but I've tried millions of things."
"Millions? Number them, name them."
"well, maybe tens of thousands."
"Tens of thousands?! name a thousand."
"Well...maybe 100"
Name me 100"
"well, maybe I tried these two things over and over again that don't work."
*laughter*
But when we start saying that I've tried everything, we incant that don't we? We make that an incantation and we believe. And instead of trying everything, we just give up. that's garbage, its not true. Let me ask you a question: How long would you give your baby to learn how to walk? Before you shut them off and didn't let them try anymore. You're saying, "are you crazy?! My kid is going to keep trying until he or she can walk." Magic formula! When you were a kid, you'd do whatever it takes, when you are an adult, you try something and say: "did anybody see that? I'm never doing that again!" And you lose all your power. So this is the ultimate success formula, it comes down to what you want, knowing why you want it, taking massive action, noticing if its working, and changing your approach until you get it! That's it. Anyone who succeeds, does this. They may not call it Robbin's ultimate success formula, but I guarantee they did it.
(140:00) If you've tried everything, then you've
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jBCLwDhdkO8
(12:00) What determines what actions we take. Decisions. Its in your moments of decisions that your destiny will shape. Yes people are born with advantages, but we hear about people who against all odds radically changed their life for the better
(14:20) Its critical to decide what results you are committed to. It's equally critical to decide what kind of person you are committed to becoming. You need to set and live by these standards no matter what happens. Even if everything goes wrong, even if it rains on your parade, even if the stock market crashes, even if your present lover leaves you, even if no one gives you the support you need, you still must stay committed to your decision, the decision that you'll live your life at the highest level.
Most people don't make these kinds of committed decisions, instead of commitments they make excuses, and you and I don't want to fall into this trap. They say the reason they haven't achieved their goals is because of the way their parents treated them, they are from a dysfunctional family, well you know what tell me about a functional family. Or they had a lack of opportunities or a lack of education, or because they were too young or too old. But remember something, these are all conditions. And once again its not the conditions of your life that will determine your destiny, its your decisions. Using the power of decisions gives you the capacity to get past excuses and it can change any area or part of your life in an instant, you level of fitness, your income, your emotional states. The most exciting thing about this amazing force is that you already possess it. This a power that you don't have to go out and pursue, or that is reserved for a select few people with the right credentials, money or background. Its available to anyone and everyone. You simply have to get up the courage to claim it. Rosa Parks act of civil disobedience changed the world forever by deciding to no long live under such injustice.
(17:15) Most of us don't recognize the force of a real decision; we don't recognize what it even means to make a real decision. Most of us describe decision so loosely that it becomes a wishlist.
Making true decisions cutting off from any other possibility. When you decide to quit smoking, you no longer even figure the possibility of smoking. The word "decision" comes from the latin root, ...After making a true decision, even a tough one, most of us feel a tremendous amount of relief, we've finally got off the fence and we all know how great it feels to have an unquestionable clear objective. This kind of clarity gives you power. With clarity you can produce the results that you really want for your life. The challenge for most of us is that we haven't made a real decision in so long, we've forgotten what it feels like. We've got flabby decision-making muscles. So how do you strengthen those muscles? Give them a workout! The way to make better decisions is to make more of them. So use those muscles and then make sure you learn from every decision you make, including the ones that don't seem to work out in the short term. Recall what Edison said, "I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward." Realize that decision making, like any other skill that focus on improving gets better the more often you do it. There are three decisions in particular that you must pay attention to. Most of us leave these decisions up to circumstances/ we make them by default.
The three decisions that shape our destiny are:
1: what we choose to focus on in each moment you're alive. Each moment you are making a decision on what to focus on. That decision of focus is shaping how you think, how you feel, and what you do.
2: What things mean to you? No matter what is happening around you, you have to determine what does this mean? is this good, is this bad? Does this affect my present, my future, or my past?
3: The most important question: what should I do now? This decision of what to do. This decision of what to do what to do with any situation you come across is clearly going to shape your actions and therefore your ultimate destiny.
Its not what happening right now, or what's happened in the past that determines what you become, rather its your decisions you make on what to focus on, what does this mean to you, and what you're going to do that will determine your ultimate destiny (20:09). Know that if anyone is enjoying greater success in any area, its because they are making these three decisions differently from you in some way. And when we don't make these decisions consciously, when we don't take control of them ourselves, we pay a major price. In fact most people live by what i call the "Niagra syndrome." Think of life as a river. Many people just jump into the river of life without ever really deciding where they want to end up. So they quickly get caught up in the current: current events, current fears, current challenges, and when they come to those forks in the river, they don't consciously decide where they want to go. They go with the flow of the river! And they become the mass of people directed by the environment, instead of by their own values. As a result they feel out of control. Why? Because their decisions about what to focus on, what things mean, and what to do are being unconsciously directed by the environment. And they remain in this constant state until one day the rage of the water wakes them up and they discover they are five feet from Niagra falls in a boat with no oars, and at this point they say, "Oh crap." But by this point it's too late. They are gonna take a fall. And this fall may take the form of a financial setback, or maybe the failure of a relationship or health problem. But whatever it may be, understand that its likely that whatever challenges you have in your life presently could have been avoided by some better decisions upstream. Now how to we turn things around when we are caught up in the momentum of a raging river? Either make a decision to put both oars in the water and start paddling like crazy in a new direction or decide to plan ahead. Set the course for where you really want to go, and have a plan or a map so you can make quality decisions along the way.
4 step process for achieving success:
1: Clearly decide what you want. What is it that you are absolutely committed to achieving?
2: Take action. Take massive action to make it happen.
3: Notice what's working and whats not working
4: When things aren't working, change your approach continually until it does work and you achieve what you truly want
(22:22) I call these four steps the ultimate success formula. This formula is both a prescription for and a description of success. Its a prescription because by following it with truly committed decisions you can achieve success in virtually any endeavor. Its called a description because it describes the path to success. Anyone can succeed on a large scale if they take these four steps.
(23:30) Like all companies no matter how large, Honda began with one man making a decision and following his passion and desire until he produced the result. In 1938 while he was still in school, Mr. Honda took everything he owned and invested it in a little workshop where he began to develop a concept of a special piston ring. He wanted to sell his work to Toyota corporation so he labored day and night up to his elbows in grease, sleeping in his machine shop always believing he could produce the result. He even pawned his wife's jewelry to stay in business. But when he finally finished the piston rings and presented them to Toyota he was told that they didn't meet Toyota's standards. He was sent back to school for two years where he heard the incredible laughter of instructors and fellow students as they absurd his designs were. But rather than focusing on the pain of the experience, he decided to focus on his goal. Finally after two more years, Toyota gave him his contract he dreamed of. His passion and his belief had paid off because he had known what he wanted, he had taken action, he noticed what was working and what wasn't working and he changed his approach until he got what he finally wanted. But then a new problem arose, the Japanese government was gearing up for war and they refused to give him the concrete that was necessary to build his factory. Did he quit here? Of course not, did he focus on how unfair this was? No that wouldn't have made it better, did it mean to him that his dream had died? Absolutely not. Again he decided to utilize the experience and to develop another strategy. He and his team invented their own process to create their own concrete and then they built their own factory. During the war, the factory was bombed twice. Even after going through all this (27:00).
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rsjXNrDy0j4&list=FL8dLkKkfCH0uo_paJdCEOEw&index=1
(1:14:52) This guy was great at communicating to everyone but himself (ex: Cory Montieth). He felt torn up in side, so he turned to drugs to try to change the way he felt because he didn't change the way he communicated with himself. You must master communication with yourself. Contrast him to a soldier in the Vietnam war, Jerry, he was shot down with two of his fellow soldiers. He gets locked up for seven years, beat everyday, tied with shackles in a cell that's not much wider than my body and six feet long. He had nothing to take care of his necessities but a hole in the ground and a metal pan of water. He was beat on a regular basis and isolated for seven years. What's interesting is that Jerry came out of there and said, "that it was the most powerful experience of his life and he wouldn't trade those seven years for anything that could've happened to him. You think "this guy is on drugs!" No what he did was become a master of communication with himself. When he first got locked up he said that, "I might be here a while," and he thought to himself, "ok what does this mean?" If this means that my life is over, then it is. If I said, "why did you do this to me God?" then I'm just going to be living in pain. He said, "ok how do I use this?" and that was his question. By the way, the way you change your communication with yourself is asking a better quality of questions. Questions shape our entire thinking process. In fact, thinking is nothing but the process of asking and answering questions. And the problem is is that we are asking ourselves questions on a regular basis, but they're unconscious and we don't even realize it. We say things like, "how come I always screw this up?" we ask that alot. Well maybe we don't screw it up, but ask and you shall receive. Ask a lousy question and you get a lousy question. so someone asks, "how come I can never lose weight?" "because you are a pig!" That's what your brain will tell you. So you ask, "how can I lose weight?" "go on a diet!" Well you don't want to do that because diet=pain, so you ask, "how do I lose weight now and enjoy the process?" Wow, new question, new answer! "Well maybe I'd like to take up polo and do something fun while in the midst of doing that I'll be losing weight without even thinking about it. Most of us have habitual questions that we ask that control our whole thinking. So instead of staying, "why did you do this to me God?" he asked, "how do I use this?" New quality question, new quality answer. Each day he asked himself new questions. He picked a day out of his life and would literally think the entire day through to learn from the past experiences of his life. He stimulated himself physically by doing push ups and sit ups even though he was going on bread and water most of the time. He came out strong mentally, emotionally, he became closer to God because he said there was no one else to talk to, so he had to create that. But what's interesting is that he was shot down with two other people. One person committed suicide in the prison and the other guy is still to this day in a psychotic ward in the U.S. The only difference between these guys was the way they communicated to themselves. I know it doesn't sound very sexy, but it's your whole life and it's about time you take control of it. And the way you take control of it is by asking better questions and #2 is by starting to develop incantations that empower you versus those that destroy the quality of your life, because that's what most people do, they ask: "why is this happening to me?! I can't believe this is happening to me!! Why is this happening to me?!" And this person is immobilized overwhelmingly with negative emotions. So the quality of your life is the quality of your communication. And by the way, your communication is not just words. Research shows that when two people first meet, what actually influences the other person to change the way they feel and/ or actually do something different is not words. there are a few words that do it, but most don't. At USC, research demonstrated that words and human communication represent only 7% of what actually influence to change how they felt about something. Most salesmen, marketers spend an inordinate amount of time trying to figure out what to say and how to say it in order to get someone to respond. And while words do play a role, they are actually the smallest way to change the way people feel. What's more important is the voice qualities and voice cues as we call it. When we think of communication, don't just think of words, think of the voice cues, because voice qualities represent 38% of what actually influences someone to change how they feel. So what's a voice quality? Tonality (the key in which something is said or played) is an obvious one, timbre (timbre is what makes a particular musical sound different from another, even when they have the same pitch and loudness. For instance, it is the difference between a guitar and a piano playing the same note at the same loudness) the quality of the sound, VOLUME!!!, tempo (the tempo at which someone speaks radically affects the way we feel doesn't it?) What affects us more than voice qualities though is our physiology. The way we use our body represents 55% of what actually influences how we think and how we feel in the moment when someone is communicating to us. This is true of other people as well as ourselves. Physiology is facial expressions, muscular tension or relaxation, the way you gesture. all these things have much more influences than just words. Have you ever left someones prescene and you said in youre gut, "it's not going to happen."
How we change the way ourselves and others feel
Funny thing is, that when you have all three aligned you have to be emitting a certain resonance. Once you accept that this is the way the body responds to these communication areas, you can adjust it for certain situations and find out limiting beliefs and empowering beliefs, and how to get confident with the flick of a switch.
Sometimes you know in your gut something is not going to happen. You don't know why, but you just knew it was going to happen. This is because your brain is trained to look for incongruencies. An incongruency is when your voice, body, and the words don’t match. People notice this. So when you say "sure..." sorta uncertainly, people notice that. They notice when the inflection doesn’t match the word. And even when they don't notice it consciously, they notice it unconsciously, so you’ve got to communicate congruently even to yourself. This is very valuable when you are communicating to yourself. If you say to yourself, "ok...I'm gonna do it....I'm gonna do it..." with no emotion, your brain says, "no way! not in a million years, I'm not stupid you know! Who are you trying to kid? there is no physiology here! You are incongruent!" But if you say with a gesture “I’m going to do it!!!” your whole body gets involved and you're going to mean it, you're going to show up. So you not only want to get good at communicating with other people, but first you have to communicate well with yourself. We need to get you to be congruent, so thatall of you is saying “yes” not just your words. You body, your voice qualities, and your words.
When you have all three in alignment/ congruency you have power
(132:00) Ask this question What's my outcome? You instantly change your physiology. Reasons come first, answers come second. Clarity is power.
(138:00) The largest number of distinctions.
Change your approach. Still not working, change it again, if that still doesn't work, change it again,
The thing that can affect your life the most, in terms of your ability to achieve your outcomes, is the greatest resource on earth, which is other human beings. For example, have you ever had somebody mistake you being polite for actually being interested in what they were talking about? Or worse, how many of you have ever thought somebody was interested in what you were saying and you found out that you were just being polite. How many of you have been in that place? say I! "I!" That's kind of an uncomfortable situation, and when that happened to you, you were missing that sensory acuity that day.
So if you know your outcome, if you know why you want it, you've got your purpose, you've got your drive, you've got your "A" in OPA (Outcome, Purpose, Action), you're taking massive action, and you notice if its working, what happens if you notice its not working? You're taking action, but its not getting closer to your outcome. What's the obvious fifth step? The fifth step is to change your approach. if what your doing, what your acuity says is not working, change it. Now what happens if you change your approach and its still not working, then what would you do? Change your approach. And what if that doesn't work what do you do? Change it!!! And what about after that it doesn't work? Change it!!! And what if that doesn't work what do you do? Change it!!! And what if that doesn't work what do you do? Change it!!! And what if after all that, it still doesn't work, what do you do? Change it!!! How many times? Until you find out what works!!! Do not say to yourself: I've tried everything. That's bull. If you'd have tried everything, you'd have what you want.
"Well I haven't tried everything, but I've tried millions of things."
"Millions? Number them, name them."
"well, maybe tens of thousands."
"Tens of thousands?! name a thousand."
"Well...maybe 100"
Name me 100"
"well, maybe I tried these two things over and over again that don't work."
*laughter*
But when we start saying that I've tried everything, we incant that don't we? We make that an incantation and we believe. And instead of trying everything, we just give up. that's garbage, its not true. Let me ask you a question: How long would you give your baby to learn how to walk? Before you shut them off and didn't let them try anymore. You're saying, "are you crazy?! My kid is going to keep trying until he or she can walk." Magic formula! When you were a kid, you'd do whatever it takes, when you are an adult, you try something and say: "did anybody see that? I'm never doing that again!" And you lose all your power. So this is the ultimate success formula, it comes down to what you want, knowing why you want it, taking massive action, noticing if its working, and changing your approach until you get it! That's it. Anyone who succeeds, does this. They may not call it Robbin's ultimate success formula, but I guarantee they did it.
(140:00) If you've tried everything, then you've
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jBCLwDhdkO8
(12:00) What determines what actions we take. Decisions. Its in your moments of decisions that your destiny will shape. Yes people are born with advantages, but we hear about people who against all odds radically changed their life for the better
(14:20) Its critical to decide what results you are committed to. It's equally critical to decide what kind of person you are committed to becoming. You need to set and live by these standards no matter what happens. Even if everything goes wrong, even if it rains on your parade, even if the stock market crashes, even if your present lover leaves you, even if no one gives you the support you need, you still must stay committed to your decision, the decision that you'll live your life at the highest level.
Most people don't make these kinds of committed decisions, instead of commitments they make excuses, and you and I don't want to fall into this trap. They say the reason they haven't achieved their goals is because of the way their parents treated them, they are from a dysfunctional family, well you know what tell me about a functional family. Or they had a lack of opportunities or a lack of education, or because they were too young or too old. But remember something, these are all conditions. And once again its not the conditions of your life that will determine your destiny, its your decisions. Using the power of decisions gives you the capacity to get past excuses and it can change any area or part of your life in an instant, you level of fitness, your income, your emotional states. The most exciting thing about this amazing force is that you already possess it. This a power that you don't have to go out and pursue, or that is reserved for a select few people with the right credentials, money or background. Its available to anyone and everyone. You simply have to get up the courage to claim it. Rosa Parks act of civil disobedience changed the world forever by deciding to no long live under such injustice.
(17:15) Most of us don't recognize the force of a real decision; we don't recognize what it even means to make a real decision. Most of us describe decision so loosely that it becomes a wishlist.
Making true decisions cutting off from any other possibility. When you decide to quit smoking, you no longer even figure the possibility of smoking. The word "decision" comes from the latin root, ...After making a true decision, even a tough one, most of us feel a tremendous amount of relief, we've finally got off the fence and we all know how great it feels to have an unquestionable clear objective. This kind of clarity gives you power. With clarity you can produce the results that you really want for your life. The challenge for most of us is that we haven't made a real decision in so long, we've forgotten what it feels like. We've got flabby decision-making muscles. So how do you strengthen those muscles? Give them a workout! The way to make better decisions is to make more of them. So use those muscles and then make sure you learn from every decision you make, including the ones that don't seem to work out in the short term. Recall what Edison said, "I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward." Realize that decision making, like any other skill that focus on improving gets better the more often you do it. There are three decisions in particular that you must pay attention to. Most of us leave these decisions up to circumstances/ we make them by default.
The three decisions that shape our destiny are:
1: what we choose to focus on in each moment you're alive. Each moment you are making a decision on what to focus on. That decision of focus is shaping how you think, how you feel, and what you do.
2: What things mean to you? No matter what is happening around you, you have to determine what does this mean? is this good, is this bad? Does this affect my present, my future, or my past?
3: The most important question: what should I do now? This decision of what to do. This decision of what to do what to do with any situation you come across is clearly going to shape your actions and therefore your ultimate destiny.
Its not what happening right now, or what's happened in the past that determines what you become, rather its your decisions you make on what to focus on, what does this mean to you, and what you're going to do that will determine your ultimate destiny (20:09). Know that if anyone is enjoying greater success in any area, its because they are making these three decisions differently from you in some way. And when we don't make these decisions consciously, when we don't take control of them ourselves, we pay a major price. In fact most people live by what i call the "Niagra syndrome." Think of life as a river. Many people just jump into the river of life without ever really deciding where they want to end up. So they quickly get caught up in the current: current events, current fears, current challenges, and when they come to those forks in the river, they don't consciously decide where they want to go. They go with the flow of the river! And they become the mass of people directed by the environment, instead of by their own values. As a result they feel out of control. Why? Because their decisions about what to focus on, what things mean, and what to do are being unconsciously directed by the environment. And they remain in this constant state until one day the rage of the water wakes them up and they discover they are five feet from Niagra falls in a boat with no oars, and at this point they say, "Oh crap." But by this point it's too late. They are gonna take a fall. And this fall may take the form of a financial setback, or maybe the failure of a relationship or health problem. But whatever it may be, understand that its likely that whatever challenges you have in your life presently could have been avoided by some better decisions upstream. Now how to we turn things around when we are caught up in the momentum of a raging river? Either make a decision to put both oars in the water and start paddling like crazy in a new direction or decide to plan ahead. Set the course for where you really want to go, and have a plan or a map so you can make quality decisions along the way.
4 step process for achieving success:
1: Clearly decide what you want. What is it that you are absolutely committed to achieving?
2: Take action. Take massive action to make it happen.
3: Notice what's working and whats not working
4: When things aren't working, change your approach continually until it does work and you achieve what you truly want
(22:22) I call these four steps the ultimate success formula. This formula is both a prescription for and a description of success. Its a prescription because by following it with truly committed decisions you can achieve success in virtually any endeavor. Its called a description because it describes the path to success. Anyone can succeed on a large scale if they take these four steps.
(23:30) Like all companies no matter how large, Honda began with one man making a decision and following his passion and desire until he produced the result. In 1938 while he was still in school, Mr. Honda took everything he owned and invested it in a little workshop where he began to develop a concept of a special piston ring. He wanted to sell his work to Toyota corporation so he labored day and night up to his elbows in grease, sleeping in his machine shop always believing he could produce the result. He even pawned his wife's jewelry to stay in business. But when he finally finished the piston rings and presented them to Toyota he was told that they didn't meet Toyota's standards. He was sent back to school for two years where he heard the incredible laughter of instructors and fellow students as they absurd his designs were. But rather than focusing on the pain of the experience, he decided to focus on his goal. Finally after two more years, Toyota gave him his contract he dreamed of. His passion and his belief had paid off because he had known what he wanted, he had taken action, he noticed what was working and what wasn't working and he changed his approach until he got what he finally wanted. But then a new problem arose, the Japanese government was gearing up for war and they refused to give him the concrete that was necessary to build his factory. Did he quit here? Of course not, did he focus on how unfair this was? No that wouldn't have made it better, did it mean to him that his dream had died? Absolutely not. Again he decided to utilize the experience and to develop another strategy. He and his team invented their own process to create their own concrete and then they built their own factory. During the war, the factory was bombed twice. Even after going through all this (27:00).
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rsjXNrDy0j4&list=FL8dLkKkfCH0uo_paJdCEOEw&index=1
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